I’ll tell you the truth. I have a soft spot for reality television and the Olympics. And what do these shows generally have? Contestants and competitors.
I will literally spend hours on end watching different Olympic sports, whether or not Canada is being represented. I will even watch preliminary runs, and heats with no medal contenders.
That’s how much I love it.
But moving on. What do these shows and sports have in common?
A winner. Either you win, or you have lost it all.
No gold? No first place? Then you might as well be forgotten in the annals of time. And this bothers me a lot.
When a fourteen year old tells me and says “I have been waiting for my whole life to sing! I want it because it’s my all. I don’t know what I’m going to do with my life if this doesn’t work out.” while I’m watching the X-Factor, I want to say this: It’s not a do or die moment. There will be multiple chances in life.
Why? Because of this little secret that no one in our society wants to acknowledge: we are resilient.
Resilience is one of the strongest aspects of character. It may hurt a bit if we fall, or stumble on the ice, but will we get back up and try again? (Props to my homeboy Patrick Chan that looked a bit devastated when he didn’t win the gold. But you know what? He won our hearts. It’s really not important to win. I just wanted him to feel happy with his skate. Also I wish I had a picture, but you know, copyright issues.).
So what I’m saying is this: we may trick ourselves that every chance we take is a do or die moment, but we can always pick ourselves back up again. Being able to do that is what makes you the winner, what makes you stronger.
Sure we may scuttle back into our shells, but we can also get back out again and be fabulous. We just have to believe it. We just have to work on it. We may have to dig deep, even if it hurts a lot.
So life isn’t what we thought it would be. We did what we were told, and maybe we’re not happy.
Just know that it’s okay to fall and get back up. It’s okay to ask for help. But it’s not okay to think that it’s the end of the world, because it’s not. We just need to be open to change, open to trust, and open to others. Trust me. I know.